I Entered A Beauty Pageant

Ever since I was a child, I always dreamed of a life of fame and glamour. I always had to be the center of attention and I always had to shine. I always believed I was destined for stardom. I quickly developed a love for music and dance. God blessed me with talent to do both and I mean that in the most humble of ways. Am I professionally trained? No. Do I have a career as an entertainer? Also, no. I’m a dreamer and for the last 35 years, I’ve lived with big dreams in my heart. I love performing. In whatever capacity, I simply enjoy entertaining other people. 

As a young child I knew people would have a hard time seeing past my weight. To compensate, I did things to stand out. If we were singing as a class, I had to be the loudest singer. If we were putting on a production, I had to be the dancer positioned front and center. I was extra. Despite being a chubby kid, I made my mother sign me up for Pop Warner cheer. I was a proud member of the South Central Cougars and practically lived at Cougar Field on Roosevelt Avenue. I was good. I could split, tumble, yell, and I always danced harder than everybody else. Every year, my mother would sign me for for the Spurs JR Silver Dancers cheer camp. Those camps were the highlight of my summers. We’d spend the entire day at Palo Alto College learning dance routines and at the end of the camp, we’d get to perform for our parents. Despite my size, I danced my heart out and impressed my audience by hitting every move on time and on point. I was twice as driven and went twice as hard because I had something to prove. I could do anything the next girl can do regardless of my size. From that early age, I moved in ways that forced people to see my talents before they noticed my weight.

As it often does, life gets in the way. My parent’s divorce turned everything upside down. My mother now had to raise two kids on her own. There were no more dance camps. I had to drop from Pop Warner cheer since it was now a luxury my mother couldn’t afford. Circumstances forced me to grow up quickly and I found myself on my own at 17. After high school, I secured full time employment and now had to prioritize paying my own rent and bills. No more singing and dancing. No more big dreams. I was now focused on survival and learning how to adult. I can now laugh at how many times I fell on my face and hit rock bottom. I can clearly remember every single tear I’ve cried but I’m extremely grateful for those experiences. They helped mold me, shape me, and made me into the woman I am today. Thank God, tough times don’t last. Tough people do. Now, at the age of 35, I have a family of my own. My husband and my child are my priority and I love taking care of them. My goals are always to self-improve to be the best wife and mother I can be. We have a 6 year old son named Jesse who is my entire world. It has truly been my life’s joy being his mother. I may be biased but he really is the coolest kid on Earth. 

Since he was 3 years old, my son has played youth sports. T-ball, soccer, basketball, he’s done it all! My husband and I are beyond blessed to have been able to coach several of his teams up until COVID-19 took over. This past Spring, for the first time in 3 years, I didn’t have any coaching obligations. I am an active parent at my son’s school and those duties were also stalled due to the pandemic. I had the time, folks! I found myself scrolling through Facebook and I came across a post advertising the 1st inaugural Miss Plus Size San Antonio beauty pageant. I didn’t think twice and signed up immediately. I entered the beauty pageant because I saw this as an opportunity to bring back 11 year old Melissa. The confident singer and dancer who was going to take over the world. The little girl who took immense joy in proving her talents transcended far beyond her size. I allowed that part of me to lie dormant for far too long. I miss performing and I miss having big dreams. Entering the pageant has motivated me in ways I never thought possible. Simply being a delegate competing for the crown has given me a confidence I thought I lost many years ago. Recently, I discovered TikTok and have been using that as a means to entertain others. I also launched a public Facebook page, website, and YouTube channel in an effort to further connect with my new followers. The support I have received thus far, touches my heart in so many ways. I can’t thank my followers enough! You guys are amazing!

Due to the pandemic, the Miss Plus Size San Antonio beauty pageant has been postponed until 2021. I have to admit, I wasn’t upset. I want to give my very best version of myself when I compete for the prestigious title. I’ve barely begun this journey and I’ve already learned plenty, however, there’s plenty more to learn. There’s more work to be done and I’m thankful for the extra time to prepare myself. While I can’t publicize my every move, I do plan on sharing quite a bit. I’ve finally found my own stage, ya’ll. And I’ll be performing quite a bit! Stay tuned!


Con Mucho Carino,

Melissa 

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